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Parenting Free Course 004

Christian Parenting, Free Course Lesson 004


(a ) Genetic transfer during which is given to a person a during the time of fertilization and that gives a person the temperament.

(b ) Oedipus complex. This refers to the treatment of the father to his son. When the child spends much of his/her time with the guardian, she/he develops the character of the guardian.

(c ) Personal choices in life.

(d ) The influence of society e.g. peer pressure from the villagers, working place, political parties where someone belongs.

(e ) Political ideologies or propaganda.


Obedience is a strong word. It was taken from the military arena. It means to do what you are commanded without question.

(a ) God.

(b ) Parents. One of the first things to teach a child is for him to trust the parents that they are the ones who know how something in the best way. Once the children trust their parents as the best in doing things it becomes easy for them to accept choices made by their parents for them.

(c ) Government authorities.

(d ) School authorities.

(e ) Tribal authorities.

(f ) Society organization authorities.

(g ) The above authorities are obeyed by keeping the rules which they have established. Rules give limits of the behavior which is called obedience. Obedience is the willingness by a child and the practice to live within the limits that have been established by the authorities.

(h ) The authorities have set up punishments to discipline offenders.


The first categorizing of parenting styles happened in 1964. Children adopt their behavior which has been developed by their parents. There are four types of parenting styles which have been categorized so far.

The authoritative parent. This type of parent has restrictions on love. They set limits for their children. They balance between being tough and tender for their children. They have time to discuss and make rules with their children. They have many ways of administering the punishment to get best results of parenting. They have time to discuss with their children what happens in their life. The Bible is used as the curriculum for teaching to the children. God says, “This book of the law shall not depart out of your mouth, but you shall meditate on it day and night, that you may be careful to do according to all that is written in it; for then you shall make your way prosperous, and then you shall have good success”( Josh. 1:8).

Discipline is painful to the culprit when it is being administered. It is redemptive discipline and it should be carried. A child who is not disciplined goes astray. Children respect parents who discipline them. As a school chaplain, I have learned that there are times when students complained that some teachers did not discipline them. They went to an extent of requesting the teachers to discipline them.

The permissive parent who is loves the child. King David is a good example of the permissive parent (1 Kings 1:6). Such parents do not have rules for their children. Children are given too much freedom to certain extent that they do not know what is expected for them to do as children and when they grow up. Children are given too much freedom which in many ways it becomes impossible for them to handle. Parents in this parenting style man go to an extent that they do not rebuke their children of any evil behavior they can show and do. This makes children to make their own rules that govern them. Such rules made by someone who does not have experience in life may usually not able to help the child to grow to a responsible child.

The authoritarian parent that is hostile and also restrictive. Such parents are cruel and abusive to their own children. Such parents demand the unquestioned obedience from their children. The father becomes the sole decision maker of what is expected to be done by the child. They depend on the external controls to control the behavior of their children. They speak to their children in a harsh way. They threaten their children that they will punish their children if they do not do what they expect them to do.

Autocratic parent provoke their children which is forbidden in the Bible. The Bible tells us to train our children in Lord (Eph. 6:4). Such a practice abuses the authority which as a parent was given by God.

The autocratic parent may go to an extent of not having time to chat and talk to the children. There is no attempt to ask and understand what is going into the lives of children. The only time autocratic parents talk to their children is when they rebuke them or ask something which they have messed up or have not done. This is not a good practice to be done by god fearing parents. Entering into the life of children helps children to ask for advice to parents of how they can deal with some problems they meet in life. Parents will be able to advise their children in a better way. If they are harsh and children fear to talk to them they will go ask for advice to some people who may end up confusing or misleading them.

The negligent parent. This is a parent who is hostile and permissive. This parent does not clear rules which should be followed by the child. He/she does follow up to check the behavior of the child. God has given parents to train their children of the right and wrong things. Parents should respond to their children of how they could handle their life challenges.

The Bible commands parents to teach their children when they are at home, when they walk with them on the way, when they wake up from sleep and when they go to sleep. Parents should use charts which should be nailed at the doorposts, inside the house to help children capture some biblical lessons which should not be forgotten by them (Duet. 11:19-20).

The common mistake is that many parents use one of the above methods to the negligent of the other styles. Some parents go to an extreme use of a method they use in parenting. No style from the above is the best to be used own its own. All of them should be used interchangeably.

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  1. Lucia Harry says:

    there is also a danger that children inherrit thier parents falliors
    In of the childrens Home were I was working a child started to steal at the tender age of two.
    We had made it a matter of praying

  2. Eleanor says:

    I disagree with the final paragraph. The best method is the authoritative method, which combines love and affirmation with loving and restorative discipline, with appropriate consequences for transgressions, so that the child learns from them rather than becoming rebellious and alienated (which happens in the authoritarian home). Being variously permissive, authoritarian or negligent (which is close to the permissive style) is confusing to the child. Children need consistency and clear boundaries.
    Also, the Oedipus complex is incorrectly applied. Oedipus inadvertently married his mother and the condition is used with boys who fixate on their mothers.
    The primary factors shaping a child are innate personality and temperament combined with influences in the home and in society. Parents play a vital role in shaping their child’s character and values.

  3. Eleanor says:

    Correction to my poor choice of words: The Oedipus complex refers to boys who fixate on their mothers, with sexual connotations. (There’s quite a lot of information available via Google).
    A boy needs to make the transition from being primarily nurtured by his mother in the early years to the father becoming the primary, masculine role-model, although the father should take a major role from the start, e.g. communicating and playing with the child. The lack of this paternal factor in so many boys’ lives is a major factor in family and social dysfunction.

  4. Deutoronomy 14
    29And the Levite, (because he hath no part nor inheritance with thee,) and the stranger, and the fatherless, and the widow, which are within thy gates, shall come, and shall eat and be satisfied; that the LORD thy God may bless thee in all the work of thine hand which thou doest.
    James 1:27)”Pure religion and undefiled before God and the Father is this, To visit the fatherless and widows in their affliction, and to keep himself unspotted from the world”.

    Psalm 82:3 (King James Version)
    3Defend the poor and fatherless: do justice to the afflicted and needy
    James 1:27. James gives two principles that define the content of true and pure Christianity. In NT times, orphans and widows and widows had few ways to support themselves; they often had no guardian or helper. Believers were expected to show them the same care and love that God exercises toward the fatherless and widows (Deut 10:18; Ps 14:9; Mat 6:32).

  5. Rev Tony Ochu says:

    I really want to appreciate you for the articles. I have been doing a book on Kingdom Parenting. These insights and thoughts in the articles are enriching. May God bless you.

  6. Authoritaran parents is good, and if it go
    white love,and kindness

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